Do you Love or Hate Princess Qloey?

The Psychology behind the book character Princess Qloey.

From the Royal Matchmaking Competition Series.

Do you love or hate Princess Qloey?

There seems to be a stark disparity with reviewers, who either dislike Qloey for her flaws, or love her for her inner-beauty. They either scoff at Qloey for her vanity and naivety, or they feel compassionate for the lonely and kind-hearted teenager. Of course, some don’t know what to think of her altogether and are straddling along the line of her negative and positive characteristics. Characters of a book are like an iceberg, where 10% of the iceberg is above water (the visible: what the reader knows), and 90% of the iceberg is actually underwater (the invisible: the entire background that the author may or may not share about the character). I’d like to share these depths with you today.

This is an inside look into the character from the author’s perspective.

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Lacking Affection

As many of you who read The Royal Matchmaking Competition: Princess Qloey, are aware, Qloey’s parents and family have never been affectionate with her. We see Qloey “thinking” of her parents as “mom” and “dad;” yet never daring to say so out loud; in fear of being disciplined. Instead, it is de rigueur to refer to her parents as the distant: “Your Royal Majesties,” or even the less formal, “Empress Ezmorelda.”

Growing up in the palace, with an equally distant brother whom we but once see engaging in conversation with his elder sister—and even then, his tone is harsh and bordering disrespectful—Qloey’s only interactions with other humans are with her employees, or other aristocrats, and council member as they visit the palace. As Qloey pointed out—on her dates with McKinley and Kipp—her various tutors and governess drilled her with lessons, often not allowing her to “play” until she had mastered her required skills.

Her family environment suggests that Qloey has had minimal affection, warmth, and emotional comfort growing up. As we can see from how her parents talk to Qloey throughout the story, that they are verbally abusive.

“You ‘think’!” [Empress Ezmorelda] spit when she spoke, “Sometimes I wonder if you think at all. Farooq impressed Princess Ednnys with his piano performance after the competition, while you pissed off both of the elves!” She lifted her heavy blue skirts and walked away.

Anyone in a type of environment such as this would naturally seek comfort. . .wherever they are able. Sometimes these comforts come in a negative form (alcohol consumption, gambling, etc). Qloey’s comfort comes in two forms; and are not nearly as harmful as they could have been. Firstly, we see Qloey having a positive outlet in her relationship with her lady-in-waiting (Victorya). Once our princess finally meets the charming bachelors (like Alejandro) and she starts “feeling” strong emotions she’s never experienced before, she gushes about her newfound thrills with her greatest friend and ally; like any love-struck teenager would.

“Who is it that took your heart this time?” Victorya came in unannounced to wake me up and found me lying on my stomach with a girlish smile and my feet dangling in the air.

“Nobody.” I laughed and threw a pillow over my face to hide my large grin.

 “Nobody?” Victorya didn’t believe me and lifted the pillow to see me beaming brighter than the sun. “Hmm, would it be your date with… Sir McKinley?”

 I giggled and hit Victorya with the pillow, not ready to reveal my feelings.

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Their connection is sweet and endearing, showing the only amount of joy she’s allowed to express; in the privates of her room to her confidant. Historically, propriety (especially among nobility) meant that women were expected to put on smiles (even when fake), but never display excessive happiness in public (even when real). Ridiculous, I know.

Alas, Qloey’s euphoria cannot last long. Here we can see the empress’s advisor, Yenna, walks into Qloey’s room, and ruins the moment, pulling the princes back to her “duties” once again.

“Follow your heart,” Victorya advised.

 “No, follow your reason.” Councilwoman Yenna walked in and ruined my romantic fantasies. “Your husband has a big role to fill. He must be sophisticated, proper, and an excellent speaker. Take Edgar for instance.”

 At least the princess has an outlet.

The second outlet that Qloey has, to escape from the challenges in her home life, is what irks readers the most: Qloey’s love for fashion.


At this point, I’d like to address how, humans crave love, for this is essential in understanding our princess. Love is our natural way. Love is life. Love is the only reason for our existence. Without love, we wouldn’t exist at all. While love is readily available at all times for us (within us), even though we don’t always know how to find it (because we’re looking outside of us for it); or even less, accept it. Many do not realize that love is readily available at all times in abundant supply, and it doesn’t take finding an actual partner in order to have it. Love is not tangible. We can feel it, but we cannot see it flutter in the air like leaves, which makes it seem elusive and distant at times. But I assure you, it is not.

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We seek relationships with other humans in order to experience love, but love is so much more than a partnership with another human being. When a human feels deficient in affection and love, humans sometimes try to compensate for their lack comfort in physical objects or negative habits. Our humanly obsession with physical things, whether it be cars, books, clothes, or our outward appearance, is all a substitute for something we already have. We instinctually resort to physical comfort in the outside world in order to compensate for the illusion of love’s absence. When really, we must find love within us.
Love originates within us. We can choose to love ourselves at this very moment, and bask in it’s glory; and I tell you, there is nothing egotistical about loving yourself. Vanity and narcissism, and self-love are not the same thing. Self-love is appreciation of who we are and what we have. Narcissism generally comes about when a child was neglected love (often in abused families), and tries to seek that love through their ego. We can choose this at any moment, and when we do, this love begins to permeate out entire being and our entire world in ways we’ve never imagined. It is readily available whenever we choose to look inside ourselves and accept it. Try it now, I dare you.

Love is our personal power, which can be used to overcome any obstacle in life. As the laws of the universe dictate, we must give love in order to receive it, as Qloey was taught by Kipp. Of course, this was in response to compassion, however, it functions equally the same:

. . .growing up, I always wondered what the purpose was for giving me ‘compassion.’ Is it useful? I didn’t receive much compassion growing up. I mean, my governess was compassionate and loving, and my elven teacher was also very loving. More than my parents.

Here, Qloey is longing to be loved, to have that affection from her parents. She’s always desired this from outside of herself, because she doesn’t yet know how to find it within herself.

(. . .cont.. . .)

“Or,” Kiss said, “she granted you the ability to GIVE compassion to others. I’ve seen it in you. It’s a most powerful gift.”

 “Hmm. Perhaps I was selfish in my thinking.” I admitted. “I always wanted compassion given to me. I never thought of how much compassion I should give to others.”

 “The more you give, the more you receive,” Kipp said.

All of this brings us to the issue many people have with Qloey; her passion for fashion.


Qloey doesn’t precisely love clothes or fashion. Her relationship is somewhat different. Allow me to explain:

As someone who is constantly criticized by her parents, her teachers, the press, and other aristocrats (who gossip behind closed doors), when Qloey puts on a gorgeous gown or fashionable outfit, and for once in her life nobody can find anything to criticize her for, she gains validation that fashion and beautiful clothes is the best way for others to finally accept her.

As the crown princess destined to inherit the empire, perfection wasn’t an option for me, it was a requirement. If I made any mistake, the entire empire was watching, and criticisms were often harsh.

Seeking comfort in the physical world is a false method that never sustains us. It’s temporary pleasure. Its guided by our ego, not our truth. Is Qloey vain for finding temporary comfort in fashion, or is she simply. . .insecure? 

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At some point, after showing off the clothes that give her the confidence boost she needs to overcome the many obstacles in the book, the criticisms begin again. As we see from the book, she tries to hard to please her mother, make the right choices in the competition that’ll prove that she is fit to rule—even re-considering the detested Prince Edgar as a potential husband and accepting the dwarf relocation plan in order to achieve this. But after all of that, her mother is still dissatisfied with her. The glamour of the gown has suddenly fallen away, and despite wearing the most expensive, fabulous outfit the empire has to offer, she still feels weak, insecure, unappreciated, unaccepted, and unhappy.

Physical objects never bring permanent happiness, and it cannot create long-lasting love either. Only temporary excitement. Only through the process of battling our inner darkness, and shedding light on our problems, do our problems (the shadows) begin to dissipate, and true happiness replaces that “substitute.” In fact, we may discover that the shadow never existed in the first place, it was simply an illusion; a mirage on the wall. When you shine a light on a shadow it disappears. In other words, the idea of lack of love is a shadow, created in our minds, that has wrongly convincing us that love isn’t available to us just as we are. When we shine a light on it, the truth that we are all loved, loving, and lovable can surface from the clothes that once hid it.

At the beginning of Qloey’s matchmaking journey, she isn’t necessarily seeking love in a marriage (although she secretly wants to fall in love, but is afraid to admit it out loud).

In any case, I would perform my duty to the empire and follow in my parents’ footsteps by marrying a boy with the perfect image and profile.

 Yet. . .who wouldn’t be curious about love at seventeen? My mind lifted into the clouds, daydreaming of the feeling of being loved and giving love, something that caused my heart to press against my chest and beat faster.

She’s doing her duty. She’s following in her parent’s footsteps. She knows nothing else but what she has learned within the palace walls. She’s compelled to choose the best man in terms of foreign and political relations; because she hasn’t been given the permission or outward validation by her parents to do otherwise. And if that means the only thing Qloey can enjoy in life is choosing a suitor how is “attractive to look at from across the dinner table,” than she will allow herself to have that small pleasure.

At the beginning of the book, we see her without hope or knowledge of love, which changes throughout the story.

From “Mom” to “Her Royal Majesty”

Over halfway through the novel, our protagonist comes to a realization that no matter what she does, her mother will criticize her. Through this epiphany, she realizes she needn’t try anymore. It doesn’t matter if her mother accepts her or not, because she finally accepts herself.

Here, Qloey stops thinking of her mother as “mom,” and addressed the more formal title, “Her Royal Majesty.” But this is all internal dialogue that her family will never understand or even care about.

This is around the same time that we begin to really see how many bachelors support Qloey in her new direction for the empire, and she slowly gains the strength needed in order to stand up for the dwarves, and stand up to her mother’s corruption.

 It wasn’t just McKinley, Qinrel also thought I was doing the right thing before Empress Ezmorelda’s criticisms got into my head.

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This is outward validation (validation from other people) is not the best way to find our confidence. The amount that we rely on outward validation is equal to the amount of outward invalidation we are susceptible to receiving. To truly be strong internally, we must find validation internally. Loving ourselves is one way to achieve this. When you see someone living with internal strength, filled with self-love (not narcissism), you’ll notice that they don’t care for opinions of others. Sounds harsh to the ego, but it’s the truth. That’s true strength, baby!

Of course, Qloey isn’t at the right place, mentally, or emotionally to understand this depth. At the moment, she is simply gaining the courage she needs to follow her superpower (compassion), her conscience, and her knowingness. Overall, she is making a positive difference in her life by doing so.

Naive vs Conceited

As the author, I tried to mirror our princess to a typical royal (per her time period) wealthy, sheltered, and ignorant. She’s heard her servants gossip, however, she doesn’t have any concept of how others outside of the palace live.

“Her bedchambers are as big as my aunt’s entire house,” I had overheard a servant talking once. And my closet could fit three king sized beds in it. This was normal for me and I couldn’t fathom how a human could possibly spend their life inside a house this small or manage so little clothes in their wardrobe. . .

The purpose of this wasn’t to portray that she’s egotistical, vain, or ungrateful, simply unaware and puzzled. She tried to imagine her servant’s lives, but had no visual references to go off of. Who wouldn’t under her circumstances? Later, it’s shown that she has only left the palace grounds a few times in her life, to go to the Orb Theater and to Rainbow Mount. Sometimes with great wealth and status comes lack of freedom. It’s too dangerous and too scandalous to defy these protocols. (Heaven forbid!)

One reason people loved Princess Diana so much, was because she was genuine. Instead of putting on fake charities that don’t actually do any good for the world, she went out and interacted with the people herself, which enraged the aristocracy. Royalty are expected to put on shows in order to increase their profiles, yet Qloey is different. She risked her entire reputation, support system, and her life (considering her actions made her mother want to assassinate her), by taking Prince Edgar to the homeless shelter and seeing the actual conditions that her people live in. By today’s terms, Qloey would’ve been assassinated as well. And her mother did try.

Conclusion: The Love Connection

Qloey was shown love by her fairy goddessmother, and some of her tutors growing up, and therefore was given the tools necessary in order to face the darkness of her time. Without this love early in a child’s development, it is difficult for a human to successfully overcome problems in life. The brain cannot connect two-and-two together as easily without the love connection.

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It is this aspect, that I love most about Qloey. Some see her for her vanity, instead of her compassion; they see her for being conceited, instead of naive; they’re annoyed that she has insecurities, instead of acknowledging all the confidence and strength she made throughout the story. Some cannot decide if they love or hate her. I, however, designed her personality based on a typical sheltered life of a royal, who (without the internet); and to be that of a loving and openhearted teenager who is still finding her place in the world. The steps she takes, might seem insignificant to some, but considering her circumstances, they’re in the right direction for her soul growth and the prosperity of the empire. This is more growth than some humans achieve in five incarnations. Between all the trials she went through, all the awareness she gained

from her bachelors, she’s admirable in my eyes, even if a little imperfect. But in judging characters, it’s imperative to acknowledge where they are coming from, and how far they’ve already come in their development. But how would we know unless we stepped inside their shoes? Or even better yet, stop judging altogether, and just share love and compassion with our fellow human beings.

 “Can I really remain true to myself and stand up to the most powerful influences within the empire?

What is your opinion of Qloey? Do you love or hate her, or are you still on the fence?

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